Rihanna Wants To Help Young Girls, Recalls Father Beating Mother
Rihanna confirmed the police report that ex-boyfriend Chris Brown put her in a choke hold and bit her during his February 8 attack, the singer revealed in an interview with Diane Sawyer Friday on ABC's "20/20."
When Diane read the excerpts of the report and asked Rihanna
if the occurrences took place, she nodded her head up and down.
Chris was charged with felony assault and sentenced to five years probation, community labor, to take a course on domestic violence, and stay away from Rihanna.
Rihanna said she was embarrassed that the ordeal was chronicled for the world to see but believed something positive has emerged.
"I'm glad it happened to me," Rihanna said in a shocking admission. "Because I can help young girls. I will say to any girl going through domestic violence, ‘Come out of this. Look at it third person for what is really is.'"
Seeing the photo of her bloody and swollen face evokes a range of emotions for the 21-year-old "Umbrella" singer. "I feel humiliated, I get angry all over again," Rihanna said. "Every time I see it, the whole thing plays back in my head, so I don't like to see it."
Some have speculated that Rihanna may have provoked the attack, an accusation she vehemently denied.
"It's ignorance because even if I hit him first does that
make it okay for him to do that to me?" Rihanna asked? "They kinda give him an
excuse for what he did."
Rihanna added that she did not hit him and described the preceding exchange as a verbal argument.
One of the most troubling aspects of the relationship with Chris is that it mirrored domestic abuse Rihanna witnessed as a child.
Rihanna said her father frequently beat her mother, once breaking her nose. "I don't want to say normal, but it wasn't a surprise when it happened," Rihanna said about her father's attacks on her mother. "At night I would not want to sleep because I was thinking about what would happen."
Rihanna vowed not to follow in her mother's footsteps. "I always said, ‘I'm never gonna date somebody like my dad. I always said that.'"
She is aware that Chris saw his mother being abused by his stepfather. "He forgot the pain that he witnessed with his mom," Rihanna said. She described Chris as a child who experienced fame at a young age and lived a life without limits. "You're a kid and the word No does not exist. There's no right or wrong, and you do what you want to do."
But Rihanna added she does not hate Chris.
"I want him to do well, have a great career and great life and grow up." She hoped he could learn from his mistakes. "I think it's possible to change."
Rihanna said she had "no desire at all to be with him," but could
not say that they would never reunite. "I can't answer that question right now
because you never know what the future holds."
Chris believes the details of the assault should remain private and released a statement to MTV Friday, following Rihanna's appearance on "Good Morning America."
"While I respect Rihanna's right to discuss the specific events of February 8, I maintain my position that all of the details should remain a private matter between us," he said in the statement. "I do appreciate her support and wish her the best. I am extremely sorry for what I did, and I accept accountability for my actions. At this point, I am taking the proper steps to learn about me and grow from my mistakes. I only hope that others in similar situations can learn from our experience as well. Abuse of any kind is always wrong. The rest I leave it to God."
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do a documetry on that and you would see good response!
Chris Brown did get off easy for this heinous crime and we hope he can grow or change, but now Rihanna is illustrating the the precise behaviors of perpetual domestic abuse victims... behaviors impressionable young women may follow and spin them into the world of confusion and severe life issues.
Young ladies- turn a blind eye to this woman and do not think she can help you. Instead, prefer role models that have their act together like Beyonce, Taylor Swift, Emma Watson, etc.etc. You would never see one of them trying to regather the spot light by twisting a horrible event, ignoring what taunting this kind of behavior achieves, or otherwise disrespect their trusting fans or other people in this way.
Rhianna, you [profane] and creep me out, lol
Women, empower yourself. Put your love and energy into your work, yourself and your loved ones. And no, I am not a lesbian!
Rihanna, tell your story and learn from it. Hopefully other women will too.
I think the men has been knocked into a box. Believe me, there are more men that suffer emotionally, physical, mental abuses than women. They rarely speak out because they dont want to be viewed as 'not being the man'. So they bear it.
Women tends to get away with virtually everything they do in a relationship simply because they are the women... I know of one woman that shot and killed her husband simply because they had a quarrel and she claimed abuse. Years later, she claims that she is still traumatized by both the abuses and the killing... and people still feel for it... Meanwhile, someone has been shot and killed... and guess what, she was acquainted and discharged... what a shame.