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Is Usher's "Trading Places" Video Disrespectful To His Wife?

Posted Fri Oct 3, 2008 10:24am PDT by Billy Johnson, Jr. in Hip-Hop Media Training

A couple weeks ago, MediaTakeOut alleged that the love scenes in Usher's new video "Trading Places" were so steamy that some of his staffers were upset, claiming that the newly married man had taken it too far.

An unnamed source reportedly described Usher's kisses with the video vixen as "disrespectful" to Tameka Foster, the superstar's wife and mother of his baby boy. Foster is rumored to be pregnant with the couple's second child.

After watching the video directed by Chris Robinson, I'm now clear about what prompted the controversy.

The song lyrics advocate intimate role reversal. Usher is telling his woman that he wants her to take charge romantically.

The video offers endless examples.

Usher and the leading lady enjoy extended romps on a bed, leather sofa and stair case.  There is so little clothing worn in the video that there was no need for a stylist or wardrobe budget.

Usher described the video as "very hot, very forward thinking." "This is kinda wishful thinking for all men," he told MTV, "to have a woman finally take control and compliment us the way we compliment them, whether it is taking us out to dinner or opening up the door."

I wonder if Tameka felt disrespected. I doubt it. I would expect that a woman married to a man whose career is based on the appeal of his six-pack would not be fazed by this part of the job.

This song and video will help bring some attention to Usher's Here I Stand, released in April. The album had been deemed a dud, despite making a solid debut with more than 400,000 album sales.

I bet when Usher performs this song on tour he'll bring a female fan on stage at each venue. His 15-date One Night Stand tour kicks off on November 2 in Atlantic City and wraps on November 25 in Dallas.

The adult subject matter will also give Usher a break from the comparisons to Chris Brown, the young new R&B teen pop dancing machine who stole Usher's formula.

2500 Comments

101. YO MAMA -
well his wife is beyond UGLY and being as old as she is with them kids she brought into the union, I say good for him

102. Yahoo! Music User -
please! he is gay, so this means nothing to him, he needed to do SOMETHING to get sales going. his marriage is PR, I mean please WAKE UP PEOPLE!!! black music and videos is all disrespecting women and men getting their freak on at the expense of their HOES sorry I mean black women hahahahahahahaha. the only class act there is in soul music is SADE but she is european ANd from the 80s so she doesnt count. this is how black people of today want things, so please go ahead, just keep getting more and more gross its selling so why not? that means people are relating to it

103. Nicole- JUST ME, MY SELF, AND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -
I haven't seen the video but he is not the only damn singer to do a sexy video and be married. Stop making something out of nothing and get a life. PLEASE

104. Tony T -
no need for a stylist??? i guess not since his wife/baby momma is his stylist...

105. chewy -
He only did this video to create a buzz (like whats going on now) to create a bigger demand for him & boost his record sales! As far as the video itself I really don't see anything wrong with it. It's done in good taste.

106. rachel r -
Man people need to really get their ole...its a damn video....

107. M S -
prime example why so many celebrity marraiges end up in divorce. That "its only his job" crap is a crock. In the end we are all human and we are all going to have our doubts spring up. Anyone who says they are too sure about themselves to feel the twinge of jealousy is either a saint or a liar. And in then end when you are that physically close with someone even on a job chances are you are ging to slip up. It happens in business offices every day.

108. renaldo m -
DAT'A BOY, GREAT VIDEO USHER!!!

109. VJ -
Well, I find it SEXY and Delicious.No offense to his wife but that's only video and Usher is an artist for that matter. Sometimes we have to explore and experiment things that is appropriate to some couples or individuals. Good job!

110. Strawberries -
This vid made me feel like I was sneakin a peek at some porn.....I need a cigarette.

111. Art Blogchet -
Who cares about Usher? - We have an election, financial crisis, and two wars to deal with, not a silly video of no consequence or value.

112. miriam -
it surprises me on sometimes how stupid people are!Obviously if your married it means your COMMITED!Thats what mi amigo just said! :P & yeah actors/actresses do sex scenes but this is a freaken music videa MUSIC VIDEO!Please people dont be so stupid! & our society is full of everything now-a-days so yea he does do wrong but you know what everyone now does stupid things like this just to get attention most of the time.This little boy needs to learn many thing about life but he'll learn it soon (hopefuly if he isnt so stupid to leave his wife for some video(s))

113. Yahoo! Music User -
who cares?

114. adore_greenz -
Video was not bad at all!! get over it, its not that bad and there's been worst videos out there!

115. dharry -
well he had to something people thought he was going another way go Usher

116. justme -
all I see, when I see him- is STDs. he looks like he has got every kootie there is, and some not even discovered yet!

117. Felecia -
I believe that its just a video and that he doesnt mean that its disrespectful towards his wife. Because if it was that much of a problem in his wives eyes then i dont think that he wouldn't have did the video.

118. Susanna -
I really don't think there is anything wrong with the video. Yeah it may be pushing the envelope a bit, but how is what he did in the video different from what married actors do on the big screen. Has anyone juged Brad Pitt for his steamy scenes in movies? Really, what's the difference. They are entertainers. It's what they do!

119. Josh -
I haven't seen the video, but if people are having a big deal about it, just turn the damn channel when it comes on. Apparently, he does a wonderful job of 'acting' if everyone is raising such a commotion about it! I don't see Catherine Zeta-Jones or Michael Douglas raising any eyebrows if they do a love scene w/ someone other than their spouse in a movie, so why is it a big deal if Usher is kissing all up on another woman other than his own wife? I think everyone has to look at the big picture, and that is when you're in 'the game' as Usher and so many others are, it's all about the $$$$ and here in America, there is one certainty that will never change.....SEX SELLS!

120. Javon -
The problem with America is we as a country promote and accept as ok sexual immorality. There is too much sex on tv, in the movies, on videos, on the radio. It's time for America to wake up and realize that this is wrong! Sex outside of marriage is a sin against God and our own bodies. 1st Corinthians 6:18- Flee (run from) fornication (sex outside of marriage). Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he (or she) that commits fornication sins against his own body.
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