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Is Usher's "Trading Places" Video Disrespectful To His Wife?

Posted Fri Oct 3, 2008 10:24am PDT by Billy Johnson, Jr. in Hip-Hop Media Training

A couple weeks ago, MediaTakeOut alleged that the love scenes in Usher's new video "Trading Places" were so steamy that some of his staffers were upset, claiming that the newly married man had taken it too far.

An unnamed source reportedly described Usher's kisses with the video vixen as "disrespectful" to Tameka Foster, the superstar's wife and mother of his baby boy. Foster is rumored to be pregnant with the couple's second child.

After watching the video directed by Chris Robinson, I'm now clear about what prompted the controversy.

The song lyrics advocate intimate role reversal. Usher is telling his woman that he wants her to take charge romantically.

The video offers endless examples.

Usher and the leading lady enjoy extended romps on a bed, leather sofa and stair case.  There is so little clothing worn in the video that there was no need for a stylist or wardrobe budget.

Usher described the video as "very hot, very forward thinking." "This is kinda wishful thinking for all men," he told MTV, "to have a woman finally take control and compliment us the way we compliment them, whether it is taking us out to dinner or opening up the door."

I wonder if Tameka felt disrespected. I doubt it. I would expect that a woman married to a man whose career is based on the appeal of his six-pack would not be fazed by this part of the job.

This song and video will help bring some attention to Usher's Here I Stand, released in April. The album had been deemed a dud, despite making a solid debut with more than 400,000 album sales.

I bet when Usher performs this song on tour he'll bring a female fan on stage at each venue. His 15-date One Night Stand tour kicks off on November 2 in Atlantic City and wraps on November 25 in Dallas.

The adult subject matter will also give Usher a break from the comparisons to Chris Brown, the young new R&B teen pop dancing machine who stole Usher's formula.

2500 Comments

141. blackpearl -
So it's ok for movie actors and actresses to kiss and romp but as soon a R&B artist does it, now it's disrespectful. Usher's wife knew what she was getting into and I am sure she kenw about it before he shot it. Hell she probably helped. Stop making something out of nothing....

142. Yahoo! Music User -
This is exactly the kind of things that has led other countries to think that all Americans are crazy and only think of themselves! And ppl can say its just a job but girls about 99% of the time don't separate kissing or more than kissing as a job or just nothing we are always looking for something!! hello!! I would not want to share my husband with anyone!

143. Paul -
It's only a video. I don't hear people whine when actors and actresses do the same thing and even worse in movies. It's really between Usher and his wife and nobody else. Also after reading peoples comments it's clear that the education system in the U.S. is failing. The horrible job that somepeople do with spelling makes you wonder how they graduated. No wonder the U.S. is so far behind other country's. Our education system is turning out so many dummy's who can't even spell.

144. Yahoo! Music User -
I think that he disrepects his wife more by not admitting he is gay.

145. Pandoras -
It seems everyday our morals become less and less, our sense of respect for wife, husband, family and community are at its lowest point. The western culture has truly gone to hell. How in the world can anyone think this is ok??, the things he does and others whether actors or not, do with a man or woman that is not your husband or wife is totally outrageous, especially if you are married!!! These are things that should be share in the privacy between the two people who are married. And we wonder why other cultures who do not approve of this or who would not want their family members to marry and American, feel the way they do. Well, I was born here and have experienced other cultures and frankly, I am embarrassed often times to say I am from here when i see things like this. ps: please don't come up with that crap about its the year 2008, who cares, the definition or spelling of respect has not changed.

146. Yahoo! Music User -
Give me a break...it's a good video. Nothing that you don't see in the movies as already said above.

147. sensualmale4u, -
my only thought is as long as he ran it by his hotty wife and she was ok with it. in my world my woman comes first and she's much more important than extra money. that can be replaced, she and thier relationship can't,hopefully he's mature and unselfish enough to appreciate that.....a mature man who's been there ,done that and learned what's important in life,i'm just sayin...

148. Yahoo! Music User -
i dont get it. i personally dont see whats wrong with it. im sure shes lovin the money hes making. if she didnt like it he might have done a different version. is this the only thing in the world we have to worry about these days?! i'm personally embarrassed im commenting on this. its just old stuff replayed over and over

149. Jamie B -
i have not seen the viedo but i love the song and his wife knows that he is acting, if thats the case then how about some of the other singers and rappers with the womaen in their viedos half dressed how about their ladies or wifes, usher do you make your money ..........ladies this is a song for us to use and take control in the bed room try it your man will love you more for it

150. matthew v -
chuck norris jeet yet

151. Paul -
the thing is when he is performing or in the pubic eye he is Usher the sex symbol and music star, but at home he is Usher Raymond IV. Same as lets say Michael Jordan. To everyone else he is Air Jordan, the greatest and all that stuff, but at home he is dad or husband, just plain Michael Jordan.

152. SharpMama -
I believe Usher is a great artist. I believe he has great talent. However, to be a man of integrity one must go against the grain. If Usher wanted to show his fans, the world, and his wife that he is a committed married man, he should have had Tameka in the video. Acting does NOT mean disrespecting the vows and commitment you made. I believe too many actors, male and female alike, use the "acting" word to let them get away with cheating on their spouse without getting into trouble. No money, fame,exposure,etc. is worth disrespecting your spouse. At some point someone should have enough morals to say no, but then again, we are talking about people who love fame and money more than honesty, integrity, and truth.

153. Karyn G -
I love this song from the moment I first played it.

154. d flawless -
Tamika foster is scheming devious woman,hope Usher will wake up .

155. matthew v -
chuck norris jeet yet???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? ????????????????????????????????????

156. Giggles -
I see nothing wrong with it. Yeah as ladies we want to be treated nice. Doors opened for us, dinners and movies paid for, knowing that a man can take charge. But how about the men? Maybe they too want that and I think Usher said it very well in this song and video. Women want to be treated as equals? Well treat a guy the way we want to be treated. Let them open the doors but pay for them once in a while. Pay for dinner, movies, take charge in the bedroom. It's unexpected and in some cases a real turn on for them. Shows that their woman can take care of herself and that she knows what her man likes.

157. Yahoo! Music User -
Pretty hot. But really? Why is this an issue? That's his job. HIs wife knows that comes with the territory of being an artist.

158. Skippers wife -
I think the video is HOT!! I like Usher.He is wonderful....

159. Muneerah -
I agree with the comment left by Yahoo music listener. Usher failed to demonstrate integrity, class and respect for himself and his family.

160. ShanP -
Judging by the video….he’s not getting it at home! I don’t think he wants to be married anymore…
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