In Memory Of Tom Moore, The REAL Rock Of Love

Posted Sun Apr 20, 2008 9:05pm PDT by Lyndsey Parker in Reality Rocks

The Rock Of Love 2 cast reunion special aired tonight on VH1, and it included a lovely tribute to rock dad Tom Moore (father of third-place bachelorette Destiney), who passed away from liver cancer two weeks before the reunion show was taped.

Destiney watched the segment onstage with tears in her heavily masacar'd eyes, surrounded by her supportive fellow former finalists. It was a truly sweet moment. Who knew a show featuring buxom blonde metal groupies catfighting, binge drinking, and pole-dancing could be so dang touching?

So in honor of tonight's reunion special, I decided to re-run this Tom Moore blog, which I originally published on April 6, the day that Rock Of Love 2's parental-visitation episode first aired.

Anyone wishing to make a charitable contribution in Tom's memory can go to http://liverfoundation.org/donate or call 1-800-223-0179 x126.

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This weekend, party girl and accused rock groupie Destiney Moore was cut from Rock Of Love 2...but NOT before failing to learn from the error of Heather's ways and seemingly foolishly getting a Bret Michaels-themed tattoo on the back of her neck. (Well, at least she just got inked with the show's logo, not with his actual name, so maybe she did learn something from Heather's season 1 skin-grafted gaffe.)

Anyway, before she got cut, Destiney got the thrill of having her parents visit Bret's rockin' compound, along with the families of the two other remaining bachelorettes, Daisy and Ambre. And while all the relatives were pretty cool this season (there was no daddy drama like last year, when Lacey's crazy father grilled Bret about his flamed-haired daughter's supposed oral-sexploits), the coolest parent on the show was definitely Destiney's dad.

Tom Moore bonded instantly with Bret over motorcycles, hopping on a couple of shiny prized hogs and cruising through Hollyweird side by side. He was a old rockin' soul, complete with a wraparound head tattoo that made his little girl's newly acquired tatt look like one of those Cracker Jack rub-on numbers. But as rockin' as he was, he still had his priorities straight: The man gave up his beloved Harley to focus on parenting his even more beloved daughter, who clearly was his destiny indeed.

On this week's episode, Tom revealed the heartbreaking fact that he had terminal liver cancer and wasn't expected to live past March. March 2008. Gulp. As I watched it the show, I realized it was now April already, and I braced myself for some bad news...all the while hoping that some miracle cure had been found since this episode was taped around December.

No such luck. After Destiney's elimination, the show sadly concluded with an "In Loving Memory" bumper dedicated to Tom, showing him astride Bret's Harley in happier times. Tom apparently passed away last month, never even getting a chance to watch his daughter's final Rock Of Love episode.

Although I didn't necessarily think Destiney was 100 percent right for Bret, I do commend her for never using her family's tragic troubles to gain sympathy or extra airtime, and for keeping a positive attitude throughout the season--particularly on this week's episode. And I also commend Bret for giving Tom a chance to take one less ride into the sunset, on Sunset. I bet it meant a lot to Tom, and to his daughter. Now when she looks at her neck tattoo, instead of thinking about getting kicked off Rock Of Love 2, she can reflect on the good times she shared with her dad, riding Harleys and visiting tattoo parlors together.

Obviously Tom was his daughter's real rock of love, though I am sure that under a different set of circumstances, he would have been an awesome father-in-law to Bret.

Please feel free to post your condolences to Destiney and the entire Moore family on the message board below.

1229 Comments

1. Yahoo! Music User -
Very sorry about your loss Destiny. Your dad was a class act and you left the show with dignity.

2. lou_mahon -
Hey Sorry to hear of your dad's passing. Even though I don't know you , my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I think you are a beautiful girl and I hope you find that special someone. Keep on rockin!

3. Yahoo! Music User -
As a cancer survivor, stories of those who have lost loved ones to this disease naturally hit home for my family and me. Our prayers and sympathies are with your family at this time. Heaven just got a whole lot cooler. I am a big Star Trek fan, so Mr. Moore's wraparound head tattoo made me wonder if he got the idea from thrills on "Deep Space 9." Heck, he's too cool fr that I gues. But if so, he'd make being a Star Trek fan very in vogue. I am happy that his daughter has the tattoo. I found Lyndsey Parker's statement about what the tat has come to symbolize a beautiful sentiment.

"Now when she looks at her neck tattoo...she can reflect on the good times she shared with her dad, riding Harleys and visiting tattoo parlors together." ~ Lyndsey Parker

I am sure Mr. Moore rode his Harley to the pearly gate. God Bless his soul.

4. Yahoo! Music User -
All my sympathies to the family of Tom Moore.

"[O]ne [last] ride into the sunset, on Sunset." ~LP.



PS: Lyndsey, can we get rid of posting #4 above? Thank you for this lovely column. Love, one of your regular readers and a fan..

5. Yahoo! Music User -
Too young to lose her dad, too young to leave his family. But he's in a better place now.

6. Yahoo! Music User -
All our love and prayers are with you.

7. Yahoo! Music User -
G-d Bless the Moore Family.

8. Yahoo! Music User -
I did not see the show, but the picture of Mr. Moore on LP's homepage seemed like a picture of a sweet man. So, I stopped by to read the column. I cried my eyes out. Never nice to read that such a young person has succumbed to that dreadful disease. But he's with God now and at peace. I love the pictures of Mr. Moore LP chose very much. His kind heart is so apparent in his eyes. I bet he was IS a wonderful dad.

9. Yahoo! Music User -
It doesn't seem fair that such a young woman would lose her father. But "our responding to life's unfairness with sympathy may be the surest proof of all of God's reality."

The Moore family is in my thoughts & prayers.

10. Yahoo! Music User -
Because of my own battles with cancer I have a deep feeling of identification, sympathy, and affection for Mr. Moore's family. I feel kinship and connection to them and will pray that they will continue to be strong in the face of this great loss.

11. Yahoo! Music User -
God Bless the Moore Family.

12. Yahoo! Music User -
Be strong and of good courage.

13. Yahoo! Music User -
I didn't know what to write. I hope others will offer words of better comfort. I borrow the words of much wiser people to try and comfort you at this time. God Bless.

Amelia Burr:
Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

Anais Nin:
People living deeply have no fear of death.

14. Yahoo! Music User -
For Mr. Moore, borrowed from Charlie Daniels.

A brief candle; both ends burning
An endless mile; a bus wheel turning
A friend to share the lonesome times
A handshake and a sip of wine
So say it loud and let it ring
We are all a part of everything
The future, present and the past
Fly on proud bird
You're free at last.


written en route to the funeral for his friend, Ronnie Van Zant of the band, Lynyrd Skynyrd.

15. Yahoo! Music User -
For everything there is a season,
And a time for every matter under heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
A time to embrace, And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
A time to keep, and a time to throw away;
A time to tear, and a time to sew;
A time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate,
A time for war, and a time for peace.


Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

16. Yahoo! Music User -
Good night sweet prince, may flights of angels take thee to thy rest. And may your family find peace in the fact that you are in a better place.

17. Yahoo! Music User -
God Bless the Moore family. Taking the lead of others on this board, I found a quote from someone I greatly admired who also died of cancer. This bloodly disease has taken the very best but they have gone on to the very best place.

Gilda Radner:
I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.

18. Yahoo! Music User -
It seems to me that Mr. Moore lived his life to the fullest. Even when he knew his days were numbered he didn't stop smiling, laughing, loving or living. For his family then, I choose a quote that reminded me of him. God bless you all.


"If my doctor told me I had only six minutes to live, I wouldn't brood. I'd type a little faster". ~ Isaac Asimov.

19. Yahoo! Music User -
As others have explained, Tom seemed to possess an inner strength that is almost impossible to understand. He lived life to its fullest and accepted his fate - as unfair as it was - with dignity and grace. I thought only people like him existed in literature. I am glad to be wrong. I know his quite grace must be a great comfort to his family at this time.

Louisa May Alcott in Little Women, chapter 36: "Beth could not reason upon or explain the faith that gave her courage and patience to give up life, and cheerfully wait for death. Like a confiding child, she asked no questions, but left everything to God and nature, Father and Mother of us all, feeling sure that they, and they only, could teach and strengthen heart and spirit for this life and the life to come."

20. Yahoo! Music User -
To the Moore family and friends, all my love and compassion...
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